Unfortunate though it has been--I've always ended up with a spouse with whom I was totally incompatible--I still have hopes of finding a lifelong soul mate.
Euphemistically speaking, I sent my first 10 brides on a long trip from which they can never return.
If you are in the same situation, you'll understand what I have done. It's obvious, of course, that for my own peace of mind I had no choice but to do what I did.